Sometimes an element of control can add some spice if it remains mild and in that case its better to be the flame than the moth (to paraphrase Casanova I think). I finally told him if he doesn’t want to make plans with me, then I can make other plans. Even though you like this man very much, there are other good men out there too.The relationship I am in now frustrates me in some of the same ways. Either you are willing to do things on his terms or you tell him when you CAN go out and that if he cannot commit, you will make other plans.She continued, “He wants you on his terms — when and where it works for him. If only one of you is compromising, then the power is unbalanced.
Are you sifting through the endless list of Ireland’s online dating websites?
I don’t sit around waiting for someone else to decide to call me.
It’s amazing how when we are not as ready to do something at the drop of HIS hat, they will come around. I dated this one guy for about 3 months who told me he didn’t want a relationship right now.
I also found out that once I got tired of it and wouldn’t see him anymore, well, by that time I think he’d built up his other relationship sufficiently.
He contacted me two days after he realized I really meant it about not wanting to do things on his terms anymore to tell me we should not be in contact anymore at all. So, if it’s on his terms, find out what’s goin’ on behind the scenes…