Dating violence deaths
Please see What is Wrong With Mutual Orders of Protection and Some Thoughts on the Myth of Mutual Abuse. Most violence against women is committed by a current or former partner. It is important to understand that there are many barriers to safety in an abusive relationship.76% of women who report having been physically assaulted or raped were victimized by a current or former husband, cohabiting partner, or date. The better question is “Why does the abuser do this and how can I help the survivor gain access to safety?This is the substance of studies that found women are more violent than or as violent as men.
Domestic violence is not a result of the perpetrator losing control; The abuse is targeted and controlled—perpetrators choose to be violent only against their intimate partners.
See What Causes Relationship Abuse for more information.
top of page Holding abusers accountable is important because it sends a message to others that abuse of any kind will not be tolerated in our community.
Therefore, it is important for us to hold abusers accountable on an individual level as well. Teach your children that violence is never the answer to a problem, and that controlling another person is wrong. This is not to minimize, in any way, the experience of men as survivors of relationship abuse, but instead to highlight the fact that this is a type of gender violence. In the same way that all NFL players are men, but most men aren’t NFL players—most abusers are men, but most men aren’t abusive. Bureau of Justice Statistics Selected Findings: Violence Between Inmates (NCJ-149259), November 1994; A Report of the Violence Against Women Research Strategic Planning Workshop sponsored by the National Institute of Justice in cooperation with the U. So, for example, if a man is strangling a woman and she scratches him to get him to stop, they each get “one point” on the conflict tactics scale for use of violence!
Finally, these stats do not include child abuse.* National Crime Victimization Survey: Criminal Victimization, 2007. Even more significantly, if a woman has been abused by a man for years, he pushes her into the wall, and she picks up a knife, brandishes it and says “get away from me,” she will get two points and he will get one.